Comments on: Looking For a Real Job: A Professional Homemaker’s Essay From the Past

By: Home Ever After

Home Ever After — Sat, 08 Aug 2009 03:10:56 +0000

@Melissa: I know a lot of moms have success doing medical transcription from home. I don’t know of any sites that have listing specifically for legitimate work from home jobs. Maybe some of our readers can pitch in here to help with links?

Sorry I can’t be of more help, but thank you for the compliment and good luck finding something that will fit in with your family’s schedule!
Danelle

By: Melissa Polanco

Melissa Polanco — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:29:23 +0000

I forgot to submit my email address

By: Melissa Polanco

Melissa Polanco — Fri, 07 Aug 2009 17:27:18 +0000

Did you hear of anyone that has actually found legit home jobs?
I have twins that are in school now and their school hours aren’t
long at all and they would be in this school for the next 8 yrs.
The temp agencies are not having any luck in finding me anything.
With them in school, I have too much to do with them to keep up their reading, writing and math levels.
Thanks for your help, by the way I love your website, it helps me so much; getting organized and cleaning.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Wed, 05 Aug 2009 19:50:22 +0000

Wow… that is an amazing story. I was the opposite, I had no desire to stay at home when I was pregnant- then I had my baby. Suddenly, my whole view changed. 2 years and yet another baby later, I (almost!) never look back. As new to the blogging and web world- I am so inspired. Thanks!

By: Home Ever After

Home Ever After — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 04:02:13 +0000

@Catherine: Your story is amazing, especially through a divorce. Good luck with the job hunt and with your new blog! Thank you so much for sharing your experience; we can all learn so much from each other.

Barbi

By: Catherine

Catherine — Mon, 06 Apr 2009 03:25:43 +0000

Wow, I just found your blog, and it is wonderful! I have been a homemaker for over 20 years, and even managed to stay home after my divorce 10 years ago ( sold the house, rented, and kept selling off excess possessions, plus child support). Now I must find a job, since the child support will be ending….I have started my own blog ( not as fun and interesting as yours, that is for sure!)….it is http://jobseekingmom.blogspot.com/. Thank for speaking out for all mothers at home!

By: Nessa

Nessa — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 22:33:12 +0000

You are truly an inspiration! I so wish that I will be able to actually make a full time, even minimum wage income from my blog…it would bless our family so much. This post gives me hope!

BTW, I won a prize from you on the Ultimate Blog Party! Please email me and let me know what info you need from me. Thanks!

ramblingsofatxhousewife(at)gmail(dot)com

By: Home Ever After

Home Ever After — Tue, 31 Mar 2009 04:22:03 +0000

@Elliott – thank you! It is always hard and scary to make a change and enter the unknown… but it makes us stronger

Barbi

By: Elliott - 21st Century Dad

Elliott - 21st Century Dad — Mon, 30 Mar 2009 22:34:45 +0000

Wow, what an inspiring post. It’s amazing what happens when you put your family first. Things do work out eventually. I’m sure it was rough transitioning to one income, but now you’re back to two incomes!

By: John

John — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 23:17:48 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing something so personal, Barbi. You followed your heart, made the tough choices, did what you knew was right for you, & now get to enjoy the life you created. May your story inspire everyone who reads it, male & female, to do the same.

John

By: Home Ever After

Home Ever After — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 21:13:11 +0000

@Amber: Thank you so much for your comment and the kind words and link on Epic Self! I agree with you as the experienced women we need to pass on the knowledge to younger women that it’s okay to go for what you want. I’m so glad you came by!

Barbi

By: Amber

Amber — Wed, 25 Mar 2009 20:42:51 +0000

CONGRATULATIONS! You went against the status quo and it worked brilliantly! You are quite an inspiration to me and I wish you the best of luck in the future with this website. You give mothers everywhere hope that they have the skills needed to make a life for themselves…husband/family or not. Growing up as a young woman we don’t hear it enough…that we could successfully be mothers and have a career we love. Live the dream life. It’s there we just have to believe in ourselves. You help everyone do just that so thank you!

By: Home Ever After

Home Ever After — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 19:12:20 +0000

@Alexis: Good for you for accepting your dreams! It can be hard to stand up to the peer pressure of what society thinks is acceptable and just realize that what YOU want for yourself is all that matters. Thank you for sharing those feelings with us and I hope all goes well with your surgery.

Barbi

By: Alexis

Alexis — Sun, 22 Mar 2009 12:45:58 +0000

I am only just starting to “come out” and say that all I’ve ever wanted is to stay home, take care of the dogs and home, and maybe even have a child.

But if I didn’t have a child, I still don’t see what’s wrong with my wanting to be a homemaker… I excel at it… it is what I do best. I am awesome at making the home aesthetically pleasing, I love decorating, I enjoy cooking great meals, and I’m soooooo happy being home.

To me, if one person wants to stay home, and the other can work, it shouldn’t matter which gender does what. It all depends upon a person’s likes and dislikes. If, for example, person A is great at making money and loves it, then person A should do what he or she loves. If person B is great at homemaking and loves it, then person B should do what he or she loves.

Also, the physical and mental limitations on someone could really affect the decision as to whether to be a homemaker or not. Let’s say person A is someone who wishes he or she could work, but suffers from anxiety and depression or has arthris or a poor immune system, perhaps person A would love to do things at home, where Person A could easily access the appropriate resources (food, bed, excercise, comfort) to remain healthy while also being productive at home.

I have anxiety and depression (which is why I used that as an example), and I also have a very bad leg, which will require surgery. I have a Master’s degree, I became a counselor, and I’ve realized that I simply want to be a homemaker who does some side work through home (like writing, creating arts and crafts and selling them, baking, working with dogs).

There’s nothing wrong with this, although the feminist society makes us feel as though there is. That’s so sad. In addition, if you read personal/single ads, sometimes you’ll read Men’s ad’s that say horrific things about women in the home such as “I won’t take care of some woman who just wants to sit around and do nothing”. That’s just so hurtful to read those types of personal ads.

I’d love to stay home. I hope someday I find a nice gentleman who loves me to stay home, and be with my dogs, and make meals, and have a little side income from a small home business. That is my ideal. And I am no longer ashamed of it.

By: Home Ever After

Home Ever After — Sat, 14 Mar 2009 01:31:21 +0000

@BarbaraLee: It’s so true that there’s always a way that things just work out, you just have to have faith.

Barbi