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Danelle Ice is an entrepreneur in Los Angeles and mom of 3. She is the creator of HomeEverAfter.com and SimDanelle.com. Danelle is also known as internet personality SimDanelle, the first virtual person. Danelle is a beauty guru on YouTube, vlogger, blogger, and new media darling. She is a current brand ambassador for for Keurig and previous AMD Tech Mom, Kraft Foods Delicious Byte brand ambassador, and Purex Insider.

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  1. Tweets that mention Girls & Modesty: Top 6 Worst / Most Immodest Kids’ Summer Clothes - Home Ever After -- Topsy.com
    June 17, 2010 @ 2:58 pm

    […] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Lin Burress, Danelle Ice. Danelle Ice said: HomeEverAfter.com: Girls & Modesty: Top 6 Worst / Most Immodest Kids’ Summer Clothes #home #moms […]

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  2. Sam
    June 18, 2010 @ 5:13 am

    I see my son’s friends sisters wearing this stuff & it makes my stomach turn. All shorts are so short anymore, even in the adult clothing section, that I’ve stopped buying/wearing them. I have two pairs of cut offs that I’ve hemmed but that’s it for my shorts. If I’m out doing yard work then I don’t need to be exposing extra skin for the bugs to bite – I just need to stay cool & not get heat stroke. That used to be the reason for summer clothes – now it’s like women are expected to look like hoochi mamas. The racer back tank tops drive me nuts – I get bugs bite where i can’t reach on my back and they let more dirt in. I’ve started buying men’s tank tops so only my arms are exposed.

    All of the clothes the article mentions are very impractical for normal daily life and look problematic enough I’d not want to wear them let alone allow a energetic child wear them.

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  3. ShorterMama
    June 18, 2010 @ 5:22 am

    I’m with you on all of them except the racer back tank.

    1) I think it could be appropriate if you’re talking about a young girl who doesn’t need a bra yet.
    2) I think it could be worn modestly if you put a full back tank underneath it.

    There are a few families in my church who’s daughter’s all dress very modestly, but they find ways to make things work for modesty and fashion. The tank or even short sleeve t underneath is something I could see them doing. I’m not as fashionable..BUT…I’m working on it…

    In other news: On finding prom dresses – sometimes a strapless dress can be more modest than others. It seems like for a bustier teen the strapless can be the only option for not showing cleavage. Other cuts can just be too revealing on a bustier girl. I know this from both my sister’s prom dress search as well as remembering my challenges. I think it takes more work for the busty girl to be modest and it really depends how things actually fit on a particular body type. Despite it being more difficult – you have to put in the effort and pursue modesty!

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  4. Danelle Ice - Home Ever After
    June 18, 2010 @ 8:46 am

    @Stephanie: I totally agree about the racer backs with a shirt underneath! Unfortunately, most of them at the store are not being sold with solid strap tanks underneath, and most parents do not make their kids wear another tank underneath the racerback. There are ways to make many clothes modest that might not be on their own.
    I like your advice about the prom dresses; I bet that is a very difficult task when shopping and keeping modesty in mind. It’s always challenging with girls that are more busty and I feel like they have more work than smaller girls in making sure their clothes are covering enough (they’re all cut so small these days).

    Thanks so much for sharing your advice!

    Danelle

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  5. momoffour
    June 18, 2010 @ 7:24 pm

    I was so glad to see this post. Yes, we as women and consumers should speak up and put our money where our mouths are and support stores that carry modest fashions. If we stopped buying these things, the pinch in the pocketbook would make manufacturers take notice.

    I also believe we should stand up against the images our children are seeing on magazine covers. Our society is teliing us (and them) that a woman’s worth comes from her body and the more she shows the better.

    I think it starts with us dressing modestly. That saying “that more is caught than taught” is very true. Not to mention pleasing our Lord. Scripture is clear about causing others to stumble and immodesty presents a problem for the men and (young men) in our society.

    Thank you for addressing this. I believe someone with your influence could make a difference. I look forward to your post on modest clothing and I hope you can present some good places to buy it or possibly start a new trend that lets the stores know – this is not what we want for our children.

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  6. Marcy Tate
    June 20, 2010 @ 12:19 am

    Danelle, good for you for tackling this topic on your site. It’s so upsetting to me that these types of clothing are even manufactured for young girls. I am just speechless and when I see little girls dressed like this it breaks my heart.

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  7. David
    June 27, 2010 @ 11:56 am

    I find it interesting that being made for children makes these revealing clothes the subject of such ire. It really is a reversal of Victorian attitudes, when the restrictions imposed on adult women were less strict in the case of younger girls. I remember reading that the first Wimbledon Ladies Champion, Lottie Dodd, owed some of her success to being only sixteen and therefore being able to get away with shorter skirts than her older rivals. While many now think of dressing children in revealing clothes as ‘sexualising’ them, it was the Victorian view of children as non sexual beings that actually made children’s dress less restrictive.

    Of course we now have a much greater awareness of problems such as paedophilia than the Victorians did. But this begs the question; are we protecting children from danger, or overreacting to the threat posed by a tiny minority of disturbed individuals?

    As a man who does not yet have children of my own, I’m probably not best qualified to answer that. But it’s a point worth considering

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  8. holly
    September 26, 2010 @ 7:10 pm

    i don’t think anythig’s wrong with the first pictures of #1 and #2 but the rest are UGH
    innapropriate for young girls and adults.

    and shorts that aren’t THAT short look good too

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  9. alexandra
    November 29, 2010 @ 7:52 am

    I agree with all of you. I’m only 14 but seeing all the girls wearing such immodest clothing makes me sick. For little girls to be wearing bikinis and showing so much skin is disgusting. I have a 7 year old neighbor that loves to wear all the booty shorts and wears the sleeveless bikinis. I don’t agree that any women should degrade herself and lower her standards by wearing this kind of clothing. Women and girls don’t need to feel like they have to show off there bodies to be pretty or get attention. Wearing those kinds of clothing attract the wrong tipe of attention any way.

    There way a dance recently at the middle school near my home one of my friends went to it and told me that out of almost 200 girls her and one other girl were the only ones dress modestly. It was really sad for me to hear that. WE NEED MODESTY BACK!!!

    From; Alex

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    • homeeverafter
      November 29, 2010 @ 1:42 pm

      @Alex: Good for you! It’s hard sometimes as a teen to go against the crowd and do what you know is right. Congratulations to you for being strong enough to stand up for your beliefs. Thanks for sharing!

      Danelle

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  10. Daleb
    March 11, 2011 @ 5:00 am

    I am glad others are taking notice and doing something. I complained to WalMart management yesterday over the racy posters of Miley Cyrus confronting people at the entrance to WalMart in Benson, Arizona. Unreal.

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  11. Lexx
    April 6, 2011 @ 2:54 pm

    I’m a freshman in high school and I agree with everything except racerback tanks, but that may be just because I’m an athlete myself. My mom raised me to not have my body out for everyone to see and so I don’t! I hate when I see girls wear super short skirts and shorts just because they think it looks good. They also wear tight things to accentuate what curves they have, as to get more attention from guys. It disgusts me quite frankly, but that’s just a personal opinion.

    -Lexx

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  12. Kim
    April 21, 2011 @ 12:14 pm

    In response to the man who made the connection to Victorian times. A good point. I think what is missing is the discussion about how dressing overly reveally, or even sexually at a really young age is doing to a girls self esteem. How she, her peers, and boys think of her, treat her, value her, and expect her to look as a result needs to be examined.

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  13. Bekkah
    June 19, 2011 @ 8:47 pm

    I agree with this article fully. Being a teenager who has a larger bust than most, it’s become practically impossible to find clothing that doesn’t make me look trashy. whether the cuts are too low, or the style simply irrational. Another problem now, is that everything is so tiny. The fashion designers seem to believe that everyone is now the size of a twig. It’s come to me having to shop in either the adult sections (definitely no fun), making my own clothing, or buying really baggy t-shirts, which can also have the double-effect of looking trashy. something seriously needs to change in the fashion industry…

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  14. Kelly Sullivan
    June 22, 2011 @ 9:19 am

    I definitely agree… Some parents don’t understand how important it is to teach our young girls the importance of modesty and self dignity. Thank you for this series!

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  15. SuperRunnerGirl13
    March 28, 2013 @ 6:47 am

    Im 13 years old and am having a VERY hard time with this. I don’t want to even wear shorts, t-shirts, or 1 piece swimsuits. I do swim team and HAVE to be immodest if I want to swim, but I don’t want people to think Im like Muslim or something because Im just very Christian and don’t want to show any skin. I’d rather burn up this summer than show ANY skin!

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